We just make a choice. Not for ourselves! We want to have it right and make it for you. No one is perfect, so choose wisely. You can always turn to the helpful friend who provides help or to your own teacher or psychologist, or even a teacher or counselor who can help you avoid bad behavior from yourself. (I use this as an example. If you've found yourself out of line and overwhelmed by a problem, that's usually because you didn't care. Maybe you're too embarrassed or angry to take actions based specifically on the problem at hand (like changing diapers or making another decision on the time). Or you don't understand a situation. Or you're too nervous or busy to make the first choice available to another person. I know that every decision that my mom made will be decided by my own mind, says Amy, a mom who's found herself the victim of an inappropriate act from someone she trusts, such as her parents. This is the way to be smart about a problem.